“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” – John Steinbeck

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Personally, I think this is such a powerful quote. As one who is a perfectionist, I always want to do things perfectly. Perfect grades, perfect work ethic, perfectly organized desk, perfectly organized room, a perfect life. And of course, this perfectionist attitude took a toll on me (and I’m sure with others too), when I wanted a “perfect” body.

Now “perfect” is such a relative word. How do you measure what is perfect and what is not? Most times, if not all times, it’s the image that society and the media show. Those tall and lean girls with toned abs, thigh gap, and no bat wings – that’s what we deemed as “perfect.” Now, I’m not going to talk a lot about body image on this post because 1) I’ve talked about it on the blog before and 2) there’s a lot on the Internet about this topic.

So I want to address the second clause of this quote: “you can be good.” I lost a significant amount of weight over the course of three months in order to reach my “perfect” body. I was determined and resolute that this would make me happy and fulfilled. But as I lost my body, I lost my self-esteem and my self-confidence together. I started putting my worth as an individual on the number of calories I ate that day, the number that was put on the weighing scale. My happiness and my self-esteem solely came from those factors: that I was skinny enough and that I was eating only 1,200 Calories.

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Eating to my heart’s content – eating what I want to eat, NOT what my calorie limit tells me I can.

But when I hit the low point of this “perfect” body – I was losing hair, my hands and feet were getting increasingly cold when it was the middle of summer, I haven’t a period in four to five months, I was constantly tired despite clocking in 8 hours a day. My doctor, my family, and my friends were warning and advising me that this was extremely dangerous for me – that this is not the Stephanie they used to know and should not be the Stephanie that should follow. So long story short, I realized that I don’t have to have the perfect body. I don’t have to have that thigh gap. I don’t have to have perfectly toned abs, it’s fine and normal that I have flab hanging over my stomach when I’m sitting down. I don’t have to have slender arms, I can have a mini bat-wing or angel wing (whatever you want to call it). I don’t have to be perfect, I can be simply good. And for me, good means not the physical appearance but the internal state. To nourish and fill myself up with nutrient-dense, fresh, green, and clean foods. To give my body the nourishment, the physical activity, the rest, and the meditation that it so needs and deserves.

So again, mini-rant here today, but remember, GOOD, not perfect. GOOD.

Have you had to switch your mindset from perfect to good before?

xoxo,

Stephanie

4 thoughts on ““And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”

    1. Yes, indeed! And it’s HEALTHY eating habits NOT perfect eating habits. Healthy eating habits means balance and moderation – eating a combination of those greens and whole foods but once in a while indulging. Perfect eating habits leads to an unhealthy obsession. Thanks for stopping by, Sam! Xo, Stephanie

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  1. Oh Stephanie, your honesty and truth that you share is so important. Wow- thank you for sharing this… It’s all about perspective and changing perspective isn’t it? What does “perfect” actually accomplish? And isn’t “perfect” such a relative term anyway? This was super great for shifting the desire to achieve that perfection for a perfectionist like me. There is such freedom in not letting these self-created standards define us. THANK YOU for sharing, love!

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    1. Aww Mack! Thanks for the kind words – yes there’s something freeing about that quote. Once you accept that you don’t have to be “perfect” (whatever that means), you can simply be good. Being good to your body (physically and mentally), being good in your faith, being good in your relationship, being good with your eating (meaning you can eat some naughty things here and there), being good in life in general. Thanks so much for the love and support! Xo, stephanie

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